Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts

8 May 2012

Imagining Yesterday

rosedust of dawn
traced on my fingers
brushed off my eyelids
with the harshness only familiarity brings

skin on skin
"they're almost kin", they'd say
with noses growing into each other's
eyes that slant and droop
pendulous drops of lovedew

extended beings of rosedust
swatches of love in the sky
we moved to a time of our own
ate purple clouds of wonder
woke up and stretched
between realities
with traces of pink rust
there would always be rosedust

27 Apr 2011

Sula

An excerpt from Sula by Toni Morrison

"With the exception of BoyBoy, those Peace women loved all men. It was manlove that Eva bequeathed to her daughters. Probably, people said, because there were no men in the house, no men to run it. But actually, that was not true. The Peace women simply loved maleness, for it's own sake."

Toni Morrison

29 Apr 2009

Flashback part I


This was the poster that continually caught my eye while watching Mere Apne the other day. This poster of the movie Anand would appear repeatedly in the background on increasingly dilapidated walls throughout the movie. The only reason that this held any significance was because Anand was the movie that preceded Mere Apne on my watchlist. 


Mere Apne was like a Moral Science lesson cum the travails of every youth in India. Anand, on the other hand, was  a movie I had avoided watching for the longest time because everyone kept asking me to give it a go. I always watch movies alone at home, and the treatment given to Anand was no different. I don't know what made me decide I was ready to watch the movie but I decided it was high time. The movie was perfect. A simple story of a simple emotion, Anand, happiness. Anand's character, played by Rajesh Khanna, was the first optimistic character of mainstream cinema who managed to not grate my nerves to breaking point. In fact I felt not a prick of annoyance. I'm not one who takes too kindly to people asking me to look at the glass as half full, and that's exactly why I fell in love with Anand. He knows he's dying, he's knows there' is no looking back but decides to be find joy in every moment than dread the passing of each one. There must be a whole lot of characters similar to Anand in the history of literature and films, the first of which I can recollect is Pollyanna. But none can hold a candle to Anand for the simple fact that he never comes across as preachy in the slightest bit. In fact, he takes joy in playing around with words and confusing the miserable into believing that they're happy. His chatter, although incessant is never inane. Although quite a ray of sunshine myself, I find constant, uncalled for chirpiness extremely put on and quite unbearable. However, with Anand it never felt that way. He breezed through the movie like the rain bearing winds of our country, bringing limitless unspoken joy to all without expecting any returns. 


Another reason that Anand will always be close to my heart is that the song, "kahin duur jab din dhal jaaye..." always reminds me, for some inexplicable reason, of my paternal grandfather. It reminds me of evenings spent with him and my sister, my senior by 6 years, when I was a little tyke of 3. The swings and slides of Shivaji Park, the vegetable sandwich from the roadside vendor with that spicy green chutney that was always too hot for me, raspberry and vanilla ice cream would follow or maybe a pepsi. The beach with it's thick familiar scent that will always say home to me, how much ever I may detest it sometimes. The sun, a large red fireball, 'going to sleep' in the blankets of the ocean. The feel of sand, dry and wet, as we would dig and dig endlessly, looking for unknown treasures or maybe just a pool. 


It was surprising to note that, the movie, Anand, has been dedicated to the city of Bombay and the people who live here. Everytime the song plays I conjure a mental image of dada, his face unclear, silhouetted against the evening light. These memories that convince me that despite all it's faults, Bombay will always be home. The city, however ravaged, will eternally hold my childhood. 

3 Nov 2007

My Virtual Umbilical Cord (and no, this is not about the progress in medical technology!)


The age of the global citizen...half my childhood buddies are all over the world...i know at least one person in every continent(maybe even antarctica..i wudn't be surprised) friendships made for life...with only a geographical barrier...bridged by something as technological as the internet.

Technology and relationships don't mix, like cold steel and heartfelt warmth maybe? Well, I'd beg to differ.

School friends, college friends, colleagues, friends' friends, a lot of alliances you would best forget but there are just as many that matter so much. My best friend in 6th grade who left for boarding school in Jaipur. Or another bestie who moved home to Kiwiland when i was 13. My first crush who has lived in Toronto since we were 10, but i got in touch with again 8 years later...all thanks to Facebook.

With such fast paced lives and with everyone in a different part of the world it's difficult to catch up for even a cursory drink, making the Boozemail application one of the largest used on Facebook. With newsfeeds giving you a play by play update on your friend's lives(which you can update the settings of to ignore lesser acquaintances, and bring your inner circle into the limelight) to building an entirely virtual social life for the simple reason that, having a real one that functions the same way, is plain impossible.


Facebook is what binds me to my old friends and actually helps me get closer to people I never got a chance to bond with earlier. You may realise that you and a casual friend may have similar interests from the groups you join, the applications you prefer, and a million other things considering Facebook is so customised you can read a person's personality just by visiting their profile page. for eg. Karun and I studied in the same class for 6 years in school, casual friends, but he only realised i was a fellow fan of The Doors when he read my status message. It simply said, 'Bianca is: stoned immaculate'


Friendships are born out of sticky situations, escapades, lurid stories brimful of laughter and tears. Getting caught for bunking maths class and playing basketball instead or talking about your dreams and your passion over a cup of coffee while watching a beautiful sunset cannot be recreated even with the best graphics. We bond through sharing good times and the not-so-good (rather horrible, horrendous and torturous) ones and this is not an emotion that transmits through an LCD screen. So when you think about it, Facebook is nothing close to the real thing, but it's one hell of a replacement when the real world is out of reach.